Hello lovely readers and thank you for checking back on the On Being Childfree series as we kick of 2020. You may know that I took some time offline over Christmas and had a really good time away from life online which was perfect and gave me a lot of really useful thinking time.
One of the best things I did last year was launch this series in March 2019 and it’s definitely become an invaluable and comforting part of my online life. I’m so proud of the help I know it’s brought to people based on those who reach out to me, and I know too there’s a whole group of people that turn up to read the posts each week and take some solace from them, even if they never voice it.
So as part of thinking about my 2020 plans, the On Being Childfree series is going absolutely nowhere. That said, it IS a huge commitment to try and find stories to share each week. As I’ve mentioned before it’s an incredibly personal space, one of THE most, and to ask people to trust me enough to give them a voice is both a privilege and incredibly humbling. It does happen more often than not that guest posters change their minds at fairly short notice and I will always prioritise their welfare over anything else even if it means I go a week or two without a story to share.
I’ve been giving some thought as to whether I change this to a fortnightly posting instead of a weekly one, and I think that’s a route I’m ready to go down now. I’ll be producing less DIY content this year on both Instagram and the blog since well, I’ve almost run out of main rooms to makeover and I’ve been really questioning how I add value to the online space and what makes me different.
As an alternative, what I’d like to do is offer a similar category on my blog space to offer support to those who have to live with an illness of some sort, if they too would like to share a story around how they find that, challenges, and how they get by on a day to day basis. The two things I’ve found people most relate to me on when I do come on Instagram is my openness to talk about being childfree as well as how life has changed for me now I have a hidden disability.
I’m still adjusting on this journey, but again I know that speaking to people who may be familiar with what I’m going through has been so important as I learn a new normal and if I can offer people the opportunity to share what they’ve been through, I hope that can only be a good thing.
So watch this space and I’ll look to kick things off next week, alternating between those who are living without children (or just parents of a single child), and those who are living with an illness on a fortnightly basis. I hope in some small way it can be my attempt at sharing something back to the online community.
If you have a story to share and would like to take part, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Having been through both scenarios myself, I know how isolating both can be and how incredibly difficult it can be to try and move on with a different path.